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Thursday, May 26, 2011

Angry? Say a prayer

New research from American and Dutch scientists shows praying can help ease anger, lower aggression and lessen the impact of provocation.

"People often turn to prayer when they're feeling negative emotions, including anger," said Brad Bushman, a professor of communications and psychology at Ohio State University and a co-author of the study.

"We found that prayer really can help people cope with their anger, probably by helping them change how they view the events that angered them and helping them take it less personally."

In research published online in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, Bushman and his colleagues found that prayer helped to control anger regardless of the person's religious affiliation, or if they attended church or prayed regularly.

In the first study they asked 53 U.S. college students to complete a questionnaire that measured levels of emotions such as anger, depression, tension, fatigue and vigor and then put them in a situation that could elicit an angry response.

Then the students were told to read a newspaper report about a cancer patient and randomly assigned to pray for her or to just think about her. Students who prayed for the patient had lower self-reported anger levels.

In other studies Bushman, Ryan Bremner of the University of Michigan, and Sander Koole, of UV University in Amsterdam in the Netherlands, found similar results about the power of prayer in dealing with anger, aggression and provocation.

"The effects we found in these experiments were quite large, which suggests that prayer may really be an effective way to calm anger and aggression," Bushman said.

But he stressed that the benefits were related to benevolent prayer.

"When people are confronting their own anger, they may want to consider the old advice of praying for one's enemies," Bremner said. "It may not benefit their enemies, but it may help them deal with the negative emotions."

What tricks do you have to relieve stress and anger?Please send your response to track2311@yahoo.com or track2311@counsellor.com.

What Kind of World They Live In-Boys and Girls Think....

When it comes to sex and teens, there are two different gender-specific worlds....

Boys and girls are educated and socialised differently on sexual matters, so here’s what your teens – and their opposite numbers – might be thinking.

In a girl world
  • Most girls are reared in what is essentially a sexually restrictive society in that their sexual interest, and certainly sexual behaviour, is neither sanctioned nor ignored by adults.
  • Girls are expected to be nonsexual in childhood and adolescence.
  • Sexual interest, curiosity and, especially, sexual experience cause girls to be devalued by family and peer group alike.
  • Sexual innocence, inexperience and ignorance are cultural values for girls.
  • They are permitted to express curiosity and receive information about their future reproductive function as their gender role is programmed.
  • Sexual intercourse is presented as the gift they are to give the man they love -a marital duty, necessary for impregnation.
  • They are led to believe that they might, on occasion, enjoy it, but the pleasure aspect is reportedly dependent on love and is not considered sufficient reason for their engaging in sex. (Men have sex because they love sex, women have sex because they love the man).
  • Girls are taught to withhold and begin to use their sexuality as a negotiable commodity. Concurrently, they are taught to devalue women who sell their sexuality, the prostitute being held out as the greatest threat to the sanctity of female virtue and family values.
  • Girls are expected to be the guardians of cultural mores by restricting or diverting the male sex drive.
In a boy world
  • Most boys are socialised into a heterosexually permissive culture.
  • There is some expectation that “boys will be boys,” which includes sexual experimentation and behaviour; and as long as they do not blatantly flaunt their sexual interest and activities in front of adults, they receive little censure.
  • Boys are taught that it is their nature and their right to pursue sexual gratification, but that girls who, like themselves, seek sexual experience and pleasure, are less valued in society than girls who deny them sexual favours.
  • Boys may be more egalitarian in their attitudes about their “sexual partner,” expecting them to be uninhibited, willing and responsive.
  • Although they appreciate and enjoy sex with a responsive partner, they expect them not to engage in sex with others, even though they may give themselves permission to do so.
  • Often, without conscious awareness, they devalue the sexually responsive girl and dedicate themselves to a relationship of sexual frustration with a girl who uses her sexuality for secondary gain.

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Know your child

Do you really see your child as an individual?

Children have the right to be themselves and to live well-adapted and happy lives, whatever their special qualities and interests. They don’t have to believe the same things or feel the same way to fit into a tight stereotypical way of being. But do you really see your child as an individual, not just an extension of you and your family?

Treasuring his uniqueness and getting him to believe in himself and then still fit into the family’s wants and needs, is a juggling act.

What shapes your child?
1. The family and its values and beliefs and attitude towards children.
2. The neighborhood and school
3. The culture
4. General situations and circumstances
5. Genetics and internal influence which includes temperament: the inborn tendency to behave in certain ways.

All of these factors together have an interactive influence on the personality and character of your child. Temperament tells us how receptive a girl is and how her experience is absorbed internally. These are the 'seeds' of your girl’s character and you probably noticed them from her first year of life.

Some of the things that make us who we are
• Physical energy levels
• A liking for routine or for the unpredicatable
• Actively participation in events, or a tendency to be the observer
• Adaptability to different environments
• How we respond to things: are we loud or calm?
• Awareness of what’s going on around us
• Optomistic versus pessimistic as a general rule
• Ability to concentrate or be distracted

Character is that part of a child we hope to develop and train, without changing the essence of who he or she is. Having a strong character helps a child balance inner desires or wants with the requirements of the environment.

Building blocks of character:
1. Resiliency which is about: control, commitment, connection and flexibility.
2. Strength which often comes from being competent.
3. Respect for others, responsibility, perseverance.



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Friday, May 20, 2011

A Woman Gives Birth To Twins — Only Thing Is, They Have Two Different Fathers!

If this isn’t weird, I don’t know what is! DNA tests reveal that a woman in Poland gave birth to one twin by her husband and the other twin by her lover.

This is worse than the tale of Octomom. A Polish woman gave birth to a beautiful set of twins, but oddly enough they’re not identical or fraternal. The truth is, this brother and sister have different dads, even though they both shared the same belly — and it wasn’t via IVF, but through old-fashioned sex.


Time magazine reports, “After paternal tests were done, it was revealed that each child had a different father.” How did that happen, you ask? This type of pregnancy can occur when a woman has sex with two men while she is ovulating and releases two fertilized eggs. It may be extremely rare, but it isn’t impossible. In this case, the Polish woman’s son was fathered by her husband, while her daughter was a product of an extramarital affair. Well, that’s awkward. This is reportedly only the seventh time this has ever happened in human history!

Friday, May 6, 2011

What it takes to be a Navy SEAL

With the successful elimination of  Al-Qaeda's strongest man still fresh on our minds,the name US Navy SEAL is a household name on every block amongst youths and others...Well,if you are like me who has always had passion for the military as a career,one of the most important questions you should be asking yourself as it regards a career in that line is the below...

What does it take to be a US Navy SEAL, the likes of whom were sent on the mission to locate and eliminate Al-Qaeda leader Osama bin Laden?
The SEALs, warriors of the Sea, Air and Land, don’t get their job titles easily. To become one of these physical and mental superbeings, you will have to endure a gruelling 30-month training course, including the notorious Hellweek.
Counterterrorism (CT) missions are but a fifth of what SEALs are trained to do. Their mission types also include:
  • Unconventional Warfare (UW): a type of unorthodox, yet smart, strategy in eliminating the threat by use of traps, diversions, demolitions, etc.
  • Foreign Internal Defense (FID): Establishing a relationship with foreign nationals by offering to train foreigners.
  • Direct Action (DA): assaults that include hostage rescues, ambushes and assaults on land and sea targets.
  • Special Reconnaissance (SR): surveillance, observation and to gather intelligence.
Entry requirements
No one becomes a SEAL overnight. Entering the Navy SEAL training programme is voluntary, but you have to pass their basic requirements first.
The requirements include: male, must be an active member of the US Navy, 28 years or younger, a US citizen, excellent vision, must have passed the Armed Services Vocational Aptitude Battery and most importantly, pass this physical screening test:
Exercise Minimum Average Optimum
1. Swim 450m, followed by 10-minute rest 13 minutes 10 minutes 9.5 minutes
2. Push-ups in 2 minutes, followed by 2-minute rest 42 79 100
3. Curl-ups in 2 minutes, followed by 10-minute rest 50 79 100
4. Pull-ups no time limit, followed by 10-minute rest 6 11 25
5. Run 2.4km 12.30 minutes 10.20 minutes 9.20 minutes
Training
If you managed to pass the requirements, the real pain begins. The total training course time period is 30 months, starting off with Basic Underwater Demolition/ SEAL (BUD/S) that lasts seven months.
The BUD/S course is divided into four parts:
  1. Indoctrination
  2. Basic conditioning
  3. SCUBA training
  4. Land-warfare training
At the end of the Basic condition, comes the notoriously well-known Hellweek.
Hellweek is basically a week-long endurance exercise that will test any SEAL wannabe both physically and mentally. The week begins on a Sunday evening and ends on the Friday evening. The trainees are kept constantly moving, and have to endure cold, wet, muddy conditions. It is so severe that medical personnel monitor them constantly.
Some examples of what recruits can expect include carrying a life boat up sand dunes, repetitive push-ups / pull-ups / sit-ups, running and performing unusual workouts in both the sea and mud.
The trainees are also heavily sleep deprived during this week. A total of four hours sleep is all they get for the whole week. The instructers only allow them to sleep long enough until they reach REM and then they forceably wake them.
Mental acuity and being able to follow orders clearly, even under extreme physical and psychological stress, is vital to operating effectively as a SEAL. Thus during BUD/S and Hellweek especially, instructors may deliberately leave out part of an order to see who among the sleep-deprived, brain-fogged recruits picks up on it. Those teams that get the order correct then may earn a small rest - a few minutes extra sleep perhaps.
Approximately 70% of the candidates never make it past BUD/S, and most of them drop out during Hellweek. The BUD/S instructors constantly remind the trainees that they can opt out simply by ringing a shiny brass bell that is on the camp site, for all to hear and see.
Take a look at this footage and ask yourself; “Am I fit enough to become a Navy SEAL?”

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Just for the sisthas-5 after-sex moves!

For so long the sisthas have cried foul of being almost usually used as sex tools,neglected and let to stare at the ceiling why we the brothas go right ahead snoring after they have given us their very 'best' and cooled our overheated engines....

Sisthas,I do subscribe to the values and views that you are far more than crying babies instead you have got embedded in you all that it takes to get us the brothas to do just what you desire.And,it is against that backdrop propeled by the wording of my brother Shaagy's song THE STRENGHT OF A WOMAN that I got inspired to researched and hit the sisterhood and sisthas' world with this article.......

It's that precious period between the end of sex and the time you either nod off or get dressed and leave. And what most guys don't realise is that they can gain maximum bonus points by using your mood to their advantage. Because women are at their most vulnerable immediately after sex when their guard is lowered, they're feeling completely relaxed and loved.

Five post-coital romancers that will make you weak at the knees;get to know them and share it with that special brother in your life............

1. Up close and personal
It's fabulous when he doesn't just roll over and turn his back on you to sleep. It would be even better if he gives you soft kisses on neutral parts of your body – shoulder, forehead – and pulls you close for a loving caress or cuddle.

2. Pillow talk
This is the time for intimate conversation which will pave the way for future success. It would be great if told you how fabulous the sex was and what a turn-on you are. And if he asks you about your dreams and ambitions then he's definitely a keeper!

3. Generosity
Although you're probably happy just lying in his arms, imagine how special it would be if he offered to make you a drink or coffee or bring you something sweet while you lay in bed.

4. Watch a video
After sex, while you're both feeling warm and snugly, is the perfect time to bond over romantic comedy.


5. A future arrangement
If you aren't "officially" dating, one way to make you feel special and wanted is by asking you out on your next date while you are lying in each other's arms in the post-coital afterglow.

Do you agree? Would these post-coital acts make you feel special and secure? Post your  in the comment box below or via email: track2311@yahoo.com and track2311@counsellor.com

'One kid is enough!'

For many Beijing parents the 'one-child' policy is far less pressing than the cost of bringing up even one child.
 
China's census should make for stark reading for policy makers, showing more old people and fewer young people to pay for said older people, the result of three decades of policies aimed at slowing population growth.

While the government enforces the policy unevenly these days - urban couples who are themselves single children are permitted two of their own, for example - policy makers have shown no intention of abandoning it.

It's expensive!

Yet with ever-rising costs in cities such as Beijing, the question for many is not whether they want another child but whether they can bear the cost.

"I can't even get this one into kindergarten," complained housewife Li Tong, 29, out walking with her three-year-old son in Beijing's fashionable Sanlitun shopping district.

"Education is a real concern for us. I have many friends who don't want children at all. One is enough for me."

Like the residents of Hong Kong and Singapore, which have among the world's lowest birthrates, China's urbanites are starting to believe that the expense of maintaining larger families outweighs the benefits.

That's the view of Wang Gui, 35 and father of a four-year-old boy.

"We actually would like another, and according to current rules we can," said Wang. "But I think the cost would be prohibitive. It's too much pressure to expect us to cope with.

"I do think the policy should remain, however. Those people in the countryside would just pop out babies left, right and center if given a chance, and we as a country don't have the necessary resources."

"China has too many people, we have too much pressure on housing and transportation," said Zheng Xing, 26. "I will have only one child. I cannot afford a second financially. Inflation is so high, everything is expensive and income is limited."

Still, as China's population gets better educated and more worldly, debate about the one-child policy has grown.

What do you think about the one-child policy?Please send me your views via email: track2311@yahoo.com or track2311@counsellor.com